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Advice on advice

I’m running a bit behind today because I had to write some notes on the Apple FaceTime bug: if you have an Apple device, read this: Apple FaceTime warning.

Anyway. Back to the matter in hand – and there was some great feedback from yesterday’s post which I’ll be working in to future emails (if I haven’t yet replied, I will soon). One thing which I think is important when writing about any kind of self-improvement is not to be prescriptive. And when reading about it, not to be literal.

In other words, what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. You should take the time to read, understand and adapt to what suits you. Use advice as inspiration rather than a follow-it-to-the-letter-recipe.

If something doesn’t work, it doesn’t make you incompetent – despite how social media may make you feel – nor does it make the person writing the advice wrong. It means, astonishingly, that we are all different, even if we do share plenty of common traits.

There’s a huge amount of conflicting advice out there and it can be overwhelming. Many people spend more time reading about how to make their lives better than they ever do acting upon it (and there’s a good argument that it’s the imagination of a better life that’s more important to them than ever actually making any changes).

Two points:

1. Just because a particular piece of advice doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean you should give-up. Try something else.

2. If someone is doing something differently to you, especially if it’s working for them, don’t be threatened by it, or try to sabotage them. Encourage their success.

As ever, I love reading your comments. Keep them coming.

Best wishes